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How it feels to have a tight foreskin

It’s annoying for him, and for me too!

Phimosis Blog | How it feels to have a tight foreskin

The discomfort during intercourse caused by a tight foreskin could be dismissed by many men who have not yet encountered it, but it is such a sensitive region, that it can inevitably result in significant relationship issues due to the foreskin tightness causing pain and discomfort, and preventing an enjoyable and healthy love life] For me, it did just that, but thankfully I had the motivation to deal with it.

How my Phimosis Journey Started

Earlier this year, I had started to date the most amazing and beautiful woman and it had been progressing well. Not quite intimate yet, but it was clearly on the cards. As a typical guy I literally ached to move things further in the bedroom, but we waited for a while anyway. Fast forward for a few weeks, and here we are lying in bed, both knowing that we are about to make love. The waiting had taken its toll on me, I felt like I had been imagining this for an eternity, and I was worried that I would not manage to make it last for more than about a minute. ‘I have to impress her, I really want her as my partner’ I thought.

So… it began. And wow it felt amazing…until..AAAGGHH!! EXCRUCIATING PAIN! I tried to ignore it and continue, it was after all, likely to be her most memorable love making experience of our relationship. But it was not to be, I promptly lost my erection and rushed off to the bathroom. Here I noticed that I had a spot of blood and two small splits in my foreskin. My foreskin had been tight for a few years, but it didn’t really cause me too much trouble, I kind of accepted it, as fixing my tight foreskin with circumcision terrified me.

The Consequence of Negativity

Initially I didn’t explain to her what had happened, and with hindsight I should have as she became insecure. For a week I tried to discretely avoid any bedroom activity, as I knew that the problem would rear its ugly head once again if I rushed in too soon. And so, away we go again, the second attempt. I had to put things right following the failure of the last time. Well, that was my intention anyhow, but it was not to be. All I could think about was the previous disappointing performance. My tight foreskin didn’t cause me too much pain this time, but the psychological negativity had set its foundations. Once again I lost my erection and felt like a failure.

Most men will be able to relate to the impact of over-thinking negative thoughts during intercourse at some point in their lives. Whatever the thought, work stress, an argument, or anything else which causes a negative distraction. I decided that I had to discuss the issue with my partner, she had become terribly insecure and had clearly lost confidence as she no longer allowed me see her naked. There was a huge relief to both of us following the discussion, and we both agreed that it is time to do something about it.

Phimosis is a Common Problem

I began to research the problem of having a tight foreskin and was shocked to see how common it actually is. On the NHS website I found that it was a condition known as phimosis. During early childhood, foreskin retraction is usually avoided as the anatomical changes have not yet occurred. As they get older, the inquisitiveness (and obsession) of the boy and his penis will usually ensure that the foreskin will follow its natural development and form. In some however, it appears that the opening of the foreskin remains too small to be retracted. And in some others (which include myself) are those who have developed phimosis in later life.

So, how to resolve it. Well I’m kind of a shy person, I intended to call the doctors, book in for circumcision, job done and back home in a jiffy. Stupidly, I kept thinking, what if the doctors receptionist asks me what I need to see the doctor about, there’s no way I would tell her that I have a tight foreskin. The doc sometimes has a medical student shadowing him too, what am I going to do, I’m incredibly embarrassed about talking to people face to face about this. But I guess I have to bite the bullet and just do it.

I’ll take a look online and see what the process actually involves first though.

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Phimosis Correction with Circumcision

Ah that doesn’t seem so bad, the skin trimmed off and a couple of stitches.

I’ll have a look at actual true life images. EEEEEEEEEK!!!! I was not welcomed by my search results!

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Circumcision Post Surgery

My Reflection on Phimosis Treatment Options

The post surgery images showed me exactly what to expect. Pain! I’m quite squeamish when I think about an injury to my nether region, so elective surgery on my penis seems to defy my own logic. I posted on a forum to ask for real life experiences of circumcision. Some were good, some were bad, some were angry at the result and were trying to re-grow their foreskin (apparently this is possible)! Quite a few people were advising against it in favour of just stretching the skin. I’m sceptical that this would be possible but I decided to look into it. I then came across a blog called ‘A Phimosis Journey’

This has offered me some reassurance, maybe this was possible after all. It shows images of his severe phimosis, which is much tighter than mine, and yet he had made fantastic progress. So I thought, I will follow his lead and try to do this too. In his blog he mentions making devices to stretch his foreskin, which appear to be due to the fact that his opening is so small it would seem difficult to stretch it. Hopefully I will not need to make anything, and will make good progress.

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How to stretch a tight foreskin

And so here we are today. I noticed a stretching guide on a forum called Network 54 and this is the principle I will try. It states that stretching should be done for 5-10 minute sessions, which I will do in the morning and again in the evening. Continue to My Tight Foreskin Stretching Blog and Why I am Sharing Such a Personal Issue

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18 thoughts on “Phimosis Blog | My Journey to Avoid Circumcision

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  2. Hey, thanks for taking the time to write a blog about this. I spontaneously started getting a phimosis a few months ago, and have been wondering what to do about it. I will order this kit and hope I make progress like you have. You have helped me, and no doubt a lot of other men who have come across this site, a lot, so thank you!

    • Hi Nick, thank you! I haven’t actually updated my blog regularly as it didn’t have a lot of initial interest but it appears to be very popular now. I hope that you are making good progress!
      Best wishes

  3. I’m writing a paper for my medical class and I have to say that your blog fascinated me. I was jokingly wanting to write something to do with male anatomy because my class is just girls and I figured no one else would write anything to do with the males. I found Phimosis and thought, why not? I thought it was more based around infant boys but after reading your blog, I learned even more than I thought I would. Thanks for all the helpful information, and I’m glad to hear that everything worked out in the end for you. Kuddos to you too, for being strong enough to blog and post pictures through your journey. Most men would NOT do this, and I am impressed!

  4. Thnx for your blog.
    Do you have a link to the full stretching guide, as I think I have developed phimosis in the last years myself.

    • Hi Joeri I only followed the instructions from Phimocure unfortunately so not as such. I tried to follow a plan of 3 sessions x 1 hour per day which involved around 1-2 minutes of manual stretching to prepare, then wearing a ring for an hour. You kind of know when it feels ready to move up a size as it feels loose or just falls out. Here’s a link to them if that helps anyway

  5. Hey, thinking I wanna try this. I’m 17 and just wandering if this did cure your phimosis? I can’t find anywhere to buy the rings either 🙁

    Thanks for this tho!

  6. Hey, I’m not 100% sure if I have phimosis or not. When I’m not erect I can pull my foreskin back behind the glands but when I’m erect I can pull it about half way to the bottom of my glands. Could I have a small frenulum? If so would these phimosis rings also help stretch that?


    • Hi Chris
      It sounds like phimosis from my experience of the subject. You can stretch the frenulum anyway by pulling the foreskin forward and holding the stretch for about 30 seconds then release and repeat. Remember it helps to do stretching during a bath or shower

  7. hi Ian thanks for sharing. I’m 24 and trying to figure out if this would work on me.
    How old were you when you started stretching?

  8. Hi there,

    I’ve read your blog, great work and well done. Thanks for all the infos.
    I got my kit last week and it went all good at the beginning but I’m experiencing some difficulties with it since a few days.
    Is there a way we could contact each other so i could get your opinions and avice about what i’m doing wrong?

  9. Hey man! Did you have a risk of paraphimosis too, or did it got stuck over the gland? If it did, then what did u do?
    Did you have sex while the foreskin didnt come over completely? I am doing the exercises and it is working, but now if the foreskin comes over more and more, I am afraid that having sex could cause paraphimosis.

    • I didn’t experience paraphimosis, but I’ve read that you have to squeeze the glans as that pushes blood back into the shaft. The glans will be smaller then so the foreskin should pull forward again

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